A little blog for a restless mind

Control

The world bombarding me with control. Every day seeing, hearing, or feeling a hint from a person wanting control. Every act having at least a subtle request for either the control retention or control gain over something. Boys wanting control, girls wanting control, Bush wanting control (I just had to mention this), parents wanting control, children wanting control. And then... Revenge!
You cannot take that which is not given. People don't like this.
You may take that which is given. People don't like this.
You may take a thing if you give something in return. People are at first perplexed over this (eg. children that haven't yet fully developed the concept of control), some disliking it, but most liking it. It gives them a feeling of control. Among other things. For example, of also being under control (by expectation, either of paying or being payed). And when control slips, you're already destroying someone else's control.
But what if you didn't have control? What if you don't want to control?
Having free will, being able to choose, doesn't necessitate control. Other than of your thoughts. People seem to think control gives them a certain freedom in their lives, they think it enables them to freely choose what they want to do at any time. But this is such a sad and lonely perspective. People seem to like the control over their own lives and will even exercise control over others if it needs to be, in order to retain unchanged certain views and properties of their lives. For example, it is understandable that you don't want to be mugged. But if it happens, you want the police to act immediately, you want the robber punished, and so on. It's not my focus on the act alone, I don't condone robbing, so don't think it's all the same to me if someone robs me. It's the feeling of control that I want to focus on. In the middle of that robbing, this feeling is lost. It is replaced by fear at first, anger when danger is gone, fury when control is regained, revenge when control is exercised, phobias and precautions when it is seen how control is fragile, sometimes even carelessness/oblivion when control is high. Do you like those feelings? They are inevitable when having/wanting control. You come under their control. Control controls you.
But of course, you are free to choose or not to choose control.
It is sad to see that some people obsessed with control crave for releasing it. The more control, the stronger the need to release it. It's not obvious. You have to see through their control-laden behaviour, feel them in a sense. You can't read people if control is one of your priorities.

posted by AlesS @ 11/04/2004 12:53:00 PM